{"id":498,"date":"2013-05-23T05:34:07","date_gmt":"2013-05-23T09:34:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/?page_id=498"},"modified":"2025-03-10T10:10:40","modified_gmt":"2025-03-10T14:10:40","slug":"when-your-marriage-needs-help","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/when-your-marriage-needs-help\/","title":{"rendered":"When YOUR Marriage Needs HELP"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><b>WHEN YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><em>HELP<\/em><\/span><em>!<\/em><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><strong>A HEALTHY MARRIAGE\u00a0<\/strong>(according to counselor\/author Leslie Vernick) is\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">MUTUALLY honest, MUTUALLY respectful, and MUTUALLY caring. You need all 3 for your marriage to be healthy. If just ONE is missing, you have a UNHEALTHY marriage.<\/span> With that thought in mind&#8230;.please read on:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\">We get questions each week from folks who have deeper \u201c<b>hard marriage issues<\/b>\u201d than we can handle. We are not certified counselors and want to make sure you get the help you need from those trained to help. Those who have &#8220;<strong>soft marriage issues<\/strong>&#8221; will possibly benefit from mentoring. \u00a0\u00a0Please read below to find the help you need:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\" align=\"center\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #0000ff;\"><b>HARD MARRIAGE ISSUES often need COUNSELING (and often one is interested in help but not the other):<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Abuse \u2013 emotional, physical, verbal<\/li>\n<li>Addictions \u2013 Sexual, drugs, alcohol, etc.<\/li>\n<li>Pornography<\/li>\n<li>Unfaithfulness<\/li>\n<li>Lack of intimacy \u2013 sexually<\/li>\n<li>OTHER!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Books Related to Overcoming the\u00a0 Addiction to <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Pornography<\/span><\/strong>:<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>Addiction to pornography, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sharingthevictory.com\/vsItemDisplay.lsp?method=display&amp;objectid=2C11F25E-C29A-EE7A-E70064061E07212A\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\">Ron Brown\u00a0 (author of America\u2019s Worst Nightmare)<\/a> suggests visiting<\/strong> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sexaddict.com\/\">www.Sexaddict.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>For helpful interent safeguards, try :<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.saaviaccountability.com\/\">www.saaviAccountability.com<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.x3watch.com\/\">www.X3watch.com<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.covenanteyes.com\/\">www.Covenanteyes.com<\/a><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.internetsafety.com\/\">www.Internetsafety.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">FOR HIM:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction <\/em>by Mark Laaser<br \/>\n<em>At\u00a0 the Altar of Sexual Idolatry <\/em>by Steve Gallagher<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>FOR HER:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<em>Hope after Betrayal \u2013 Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your\u00a0 Marriage\u00a0<\/em>by Meg Wilson<\/p>\n<p><em>When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography\u00a0<\/em>by Vicki Tiede<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">If\u00a0you&#8217;ve\u00a0decided you have\u00a0hard marriage issues,\u00a0then here is help for you to find a counselor to help you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>1\u00a0Find a counselor who is a MARRIAGE COUNSELOR. Ask others where they\u2019ve had success. Be sure the counselor can handle the topic with which you are dealing \u2013 interview them. Tell them your main issues and seek someone who can speak to these issues. \u00a0Being specific helps them to know where to send you. Otherwise, you risk of not being able to get to the root of the problem for a long time. Don\u2019t waste time and money. SEARCH to find a good fit.<\/p>\n<p>2. Call Focus on the Family (in Colorado Springs but they have a list of names of potential counselors in your area.) 1-800 232-6459<\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0Call the AMMFT (American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists) in your area. They are clinical members and are additionally supervised with hours post graduate.\u00a0http:\/\/www.aamft.org\/iMIS15\/AAMFT\/<\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0Christian Counseling Association (Google this title and find a location near you.)<\/p>\n<p>5.\u00a0A counseling and care line:\u00a01-800-232-6459 &#8211;\u00a0Email:\u00a0<a href=\"mailto:Help@OnTheFamily.com\">Help@OnTheFamily.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>6.\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Psychology Today\u2019s therapist locator <\/a>is helpful. Type in your city or zip for a lit of therapists near you. Look up their website; call them with questions; make an appointment. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">http:\/\/www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>7. A recommendation (remote available) for sexual issues, trauma, etc is Danisa Suerez (<a class=\"yiv3793317565\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ccicounseling.com\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.ccicounseling.com\/about<\/a>) or <a class=\"yiv3793317565\" href=\"http:\/\/mycounselor.online\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">mycounselor.online<\/a> (they are all Christian trained sex therapists)<\/p>\n<div class=\"yiv3793317565\"><\/div>\n<p><b>ANY COUNSELOR WHO TELLS YOU AFTER 3 VISITS THAT YOU SHOULD DIVORCE IS NOT WORTH GOING TO. FIND SOMEONE WHO WANTS YOUR MARRIAGE TO WORK AND WILL DO THE WORK WITH YOU TO MAKE IT FOR THE LONG HAUL!<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>REMEMBER:<\/b>The longer you wait the more isolated you\u2019ll become. Don\u2019t wait. Divorce is NOT the only option.<\/p>\n<p>Cleveland area counseling services and counselors that people have recommended to us are listed below. This list is for you to have a place to start your search locally but we do not endorse for any reason the services or individuals. You must interview them and decide if their services will benefit you.<\/p>\n<p>North Coast Family Foundation, Southland Professional Building, 6867 Pearl Road #109, Middleburg Ht, OH 44130, 440-842-6867<\/p>\n<p>North Coast Family Foundation, Darling Building, 23300 Chagrin Boulevard, #103-104, Beachwood, OH 44122, 440-464-6620<\/p>\n<p>Tony Ciccone, 2432 South Raccoon Road, Austintown, OH 44515, 330-799-9851<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Linda Dakwar, PhD, 10001 Chillicothe Road, Kirtland, OH 44094, 440-227-8285<\/p>\n<p>Emerge Counseling Services, 900 Mull AVenue, Akron, OH 44313, 330-867-5603 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.emerge.org\">www.emerge.org<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Fieldstone Counseling, 4520 South Arlington Road, Uniontown, OH 44685, 330-896-7204 (and other locations, as well.)\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/fieldstonecounseling.org\/\">https:\/\/fieldstonecounseling.org\/<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"yiv3793317565\">A recommendation (remote available) for sexual issues, trauma, etc is: Danisa Suerez (<a class=\"yiv3793317565\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ccicounseling.com\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.ccicounseling.com\/about<\/a>)\u00a0or\u00a0<a class=\"yiv3793317565\" href=\"http:\/\/mycounselor.online\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">mycounselor.online<\/a> (they are all Christian trained sex therapists)<\/div>\n<div class=\"yiv3793317565\"><\/div>\n<p>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #0000ff;\"><b>SOFT MARRIAGE ISSUES often need MENTORING:<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Mentoring can happen when BOTH spouses want to move forward and who are BOTH making progress in a forward direction and whose issues are more in line with what we call \u201c<b>soft \u00a0marriage issues<\/b>,\u201d like learning to communicate better, feeling like you&#8217;re not on the same page but want to be, needing to learn how to talk nicely or being a better listener, rather than the deeper issues just mentioned.<\/p>\n<p>FamilyLife Mentoring resource:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.familylife.com\/ementoring\">http:\/\/www.familylife.com\/ementoring<\/a><\/p>\n<p>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #0000ff;\"><b>GETTING STARTED ON YOUR OWN:<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>FOR DAILY ENCOURAGEMENT<\/b> in a word or two:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/MyMarriageMatters\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/MyMarriageMatters<\/a> &#8211; click on this link and then click LIKE<\/p>\n<p><strong>MARRIAGE GET-A-WAY &#8211; FIND<\/strong><b><strong> A C<\/strong>ITY YOU CAN ATTEND<\/b>:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.familylife.com\">www.familylife.com<\/a> &#8211; FAMILYLIFE WEEKEND TO REMEMBER GET A WAY. You\u2019ll get SO MUCH from this weekend and will save yourself a lot of money on counseling. THEN, if after this weekend (having not missed any sessions\u2026.) if you still want to get counseling, you can be more specific about the issues on which you need to work. Here is a discount code:\u00a0 DMDONOVAN (If for some reason it doesn\u2019t go through, call 1-800-FLTODAY and ask for DAN DONOVAN who\u2019ll get you the discount.)<\/p>\n<p><b>THEN<\/b>:\u00a0Whether or not your spouse wants help, <b>you can get the help YOU need. <\/b>\u00a0Here are a few links for (hopefully) both of you to check out:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.focusonthefamily.com\/radio.aspx\">http:\/\/www.focusonthefamily.com\/radio.aspx<\/a>\u00a0(Responding well in marital conflict \u2013 Leslie Vernick \u2013 2 parts \u2013 both were great!)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.moodyradio.org\/middayconnection.aspx\">http:\/\/www.moodyradio.org\/middayconnection.aspx<\/a>\u00a0(Drama Proofing your Life \u2013 6 amazing downloads \u2013 On Midday Connection with Ray Kane.)<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">http:\/\/www.leslievernick.com<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>(Check out all resources, blogs, etc.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>WHEN YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS HELP! A HEALTHY MARRIAGE\u00a0(according to counselor\/author Leslie Vernick) is\u00a0MUTUALLY honest, MUTUALLY respectful, and MUTUALLY caring. You need all 3 for your marriage to be healthy. If just ONE is missing, you have a UNHEALTHY marriage. With that thought in mind&#8230;.please read on: We get questions each week from folks who have [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-498","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/498","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=498"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/498\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3649,"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/498\/revisions\/3649"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cindiferrini.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=498"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}